Daddy, can I have your phone?, she asked.
“I’d like to play my games”, she went onto explain.
We were sat there in the car, within Sainsburys carpark, and I decided just to pass over my phone.
I could have said no. But I wanted a quieter life.
As I repositioned myself in the car, I realised what this meant.
No Kindle access.
And I stopped.
I did nothing but think.
I managed to think about thoughts that I decided to think. Not what my little black mirror told me to think about.
I heard someone talk awhile back how “doing nothing” was once scheduled into our lives…. waiting for public transport… walking to work… standing around waiting for people… This time naturally gave people a chance to think and process what was happening in their lives. This was argued as a reason for an increase in people having problems with stress… anxiety… sleeping…
Maybe we just don’t like being bored.
But we’re surprised when our kids complain about being bored.
Perhaps, it would help us all out if we were all a little bit bored at times?
The big day has arrived. You’ve left work, and you’re now starting possibly almost a years worth of maternity leave. I’ve heard its fun to start with… but can get kinda boring.
So what do you do during maternity leave?
Heres our list of 101 Things to do when you’re bored on Maternity Leave:
- Make a list of alcoholic drinks you’re missing.
- Choose which of the above is going to be your first drink.
- Watch Jeremy Kyle.
- Go shopping for nipple cream.
- Realise Jeremy Kyle is kinda rubbish, and turn it off.
- Plan a meal to eat after you give birth that you can’t now (eg raw steak)
- Meet up with other new mums / mums to be / antenatal class people.
- Read all those books… again.
- Read notes from the antenatal classes.
- Realise you should have considered going to an antenatal class.
- Pregnancy Journal… Make sure you write in it at some point.
- Invest in Netflix.
- Write a letter to the baby. (awww)
- Research benefits.
- Start a blog.
- Comment on this post with a link to your blog.
- Find other new mum / dad blogs.
- Buy baby clothes.
- Wash baby clothes.
- Play computer games.
- Feeling tired? SLEEP!
- Sort out where baby clothes live.
- Sort out a nursery room.
- Find yourself a sleep cushion.
- Research classes to go to with baby.
- Need to arrange nursery care? You’re probably too late. Have a cry.
- You’re pregnant. Cry anyway.
- Have a go at your other half because he gave you a cold whilst you were THAT pregnant.
- Antenatal exercise classes.
- Go have coffee, tea, juice with friends.
- How quick can you put the pram / travel system together? Time yourself.
- Challenge your partner, see if they get do it faster then you.
- Shop for your own clothes.
- Anything to sell on eBay?
- Baby proof your house.
- You know that tiny skirt you’ve not worn forever? Now might be a good time to say goodbye to that tiny skirt…
- Is your partner at work? Cook him a fantastic meal for when he gets back!
- Got freezer space? Start cooking up foods that you can freeze to reheat later.
- Might be a good time to start decorating anything that needs it…
- Travel system? Got one yet? We like the Greco range… available from Mothercare.
- Have some photos of “the bump” taken.
- Aqua Natal?
- Antenatal pilates/yoga?
- Write silly lists.
- Are you still reading?
- Try all your old dresses on for size.
- Reorganise cupboards.
- Organise CDs in alphabetical order.
- Organise CDs in order of release date.
- Clean your home top to bottom
- Realise that you can’t access various parts of your home, due to mobility issues/huge bump…nag partner to move furniture and clean areas
- Get annoyed at the way that partner has cleaned the hard to reach areas and attempt to do them yourself.
- Realise that your attempt at cleaning hard to reach areas isn’t as good as you want… enlist help from mother/mother-in-law/cleaner.
- Go out for a meal.
- Nag partner to work extra hours to pay for regular cleaner
- Then complain that partner is working too much and you haven’t got any quality time together.
- Join online birth clubs
- Spend hours each day reading and answering other Mums/Mum-to-bes questions
- Spend hours asking questions on birth clubs.
- Buy a birthing ball
- Put together a list of people to contact soon after birth.
- Still smoking? Now you’re not at work, now might be a good time to look for help giving up.
- Practise the different positions/movements that you can do on a birthing ball
- Play leg football with your partner, using the birthing ball as the ‘football’
- Watch your other half try and sit on the birthing ball.
- Research hiring a TENs machine
- Hire a TENS machine and work out how to use it.
- Go to the cinema – make sure you can get to the toilet easily.
- Write a list of things needed for hospital bag
- Buy anything missing from hospital bag
- Pack hospital bag/s.
- Get a hair cut.
- Go on a date with your better half / best friend.
- Explore different websites online… I’ve heard The Church Sofa is quite a good one.
- Check car insurance, in case there’s restrictions on driving as a pregnant woman
- Eat something! Dont forget to keep eating…
- Can’t face the supermarket anymore, start doing food shopping online
- Go along to a localdrop-in Mother & baby
- Does the MOT on the car need to be done? You dont wanna have to sort that the week after the baby has been born…
- When out and about, remind your partner that you are indeed pregnant.
- Practice the waddle.
- Treat yourself.
- (After birth) Drink some of those alcoholic drinks that you planned to drink while pregnant
- (After birth) Worry about how much and when it’s safe to drink alcohol if breast feeding/expressing milk.
- Are you still reading this?
- Spend sometime watching kids TV (might as well get started now)
- Tell yourself of for already planning on using the TV as a babysitter.
- Catch a bus into town, see if anyone actually stands up and offers you a seat.
- Pray for your unborn child.
- Friend other members of your antenatal class on Facebook, then play Facebook games against them.
- Startup / Catchup with correspondence.
- Finish any craft projects.
- Tidy up after the said craft project.
- Is there anything else you need to buy for the baby?
- (after birth) Make silly faces at baby.
- (after birth) Talk to your child… swearing NOT allowed.
- Realise that previous expectations were different.
- Life is different. Live with it.
- Go online read silly lists.