The Place of Dads in The Star Wars Universe

Not seen the new Star Wars movie yet?  It may be best to not read the following look, at the place of Dads in the Star Wars Universe – as it very much includes The Force Awakens.

No seriously, don’t read this if you haven’t seen it.  If you still want to read this, please scroll past Darth…

Spoilers below…


Still here? Ok…

I came across this little article earlier “Patriarchy and Star Wars: The Mother Strikes Back” where its argued that Mothers don’t seem to be liked much in the Star Wars universe. The thing is, Padme dies in childbirth, Shmi doesn’t die well, and yes it is suggested that Leia sent her son away… but let’s see if Dads do well in Star Wars, by looking at the main male characters and how well they do at the father / child relationship thing.


Obi Wan Kenobi

While not a dad as such to Anakin Skywalker, it could be argued that the guy was a father figure in some ways (particularly after Qui-Gon Jinns death). Obi Wan seemed to only really listen to Anakin once he rebelled. In punishment for Anakin’s rebellion, it can be argued that Obi Wan slashed the guy with a light saber and left him to burn in lava. That’s not nice parenting.

Anakin Skywalker / Darth Vader

Whilst growing up as a slave, Anakin didn’t seem to have a dad on the scene, until one day this cool guy that could do mind tricks turned up, telling him that he could be free and train as Jedi as long as he left his mother behind. Anakin chose to hang out with this guy who could potentially had been the dad that he’d never had. This “dad” died an hours movie time later.

The replacement father figure seemed a lot younger, didn’t seem to listen to Anakin much, seemed keen to keep Anakin from seeing his mother, and anyone else who he may have an emotional attachment with. This forced Anakin to see his Mum in secret (in time for her to die – and not die well), and for him to have a secret relationship with Padme. Due to not being able to discuss his fears about Padme dying in childbirth, with his father (Obi Wan), Anakin found another person to confide in.

This led to a chain of events that led to Anakin being left burning by his father figure, just to be saved by another one. This new father figure picked him, dusted him down, and gave him a new life.

When Darth Vader realised that his son survived child birth, he went across the galaxy to track him down, and offer him a chance to work with him. Sadly Luke went grumpy teenager, screamed No at him, and jumped down into Cloud City. (Yes Darth cut off his hand, but this was a result of the love shown to him by Obi Wan Kenobi)

After being shown this love, Luke went to see Darth Vader – who in turn took him to see the only family Darth Vader had on the Death Star. This set up a chain of events that led to Luke killing his Dad. Whilst his friends blew up Darths place of work, AGAIN.

Luke Skywalker

Spent his teenage life living with his aunt and uncle who told him that his father Anakin / Darth had died, and felt trapped within his life as a farm boy. Possibly as a result of this sheltered upbringing he didn’t react well to the happy news that his father was alive, snogged his sister, and killed his own father, before setting his father’s dead body on fire.

Since then, it’s possibly the case that he has abandoned his family and went into hiding after a work project had gone wrong.

Han Solo.

Let’s ask how the relationship with his son is? No wait…

In conclusion…

I think it’s fair to say that families in general don’t do well in Star Wars.

Is there anything I’ve missed from the above list?

A Message To Brands Who Want To Make Dads Their New Friends

Love this from @DBTHSocialPR on The Huffington Post:

… as Dad 2.0, we’re not only expected to but are proud to do more than our fair share of bum and tear-wiping because being a dad is quite possibly the best job in the world. We’re the Grange Hill generation that came of age while raving and Britpoppin’ in the 90s. Imagine the date when New Lad became New Dad, and you will be halfway there.

Now as responsible child-rearing grown-ups with careers and mortgages, we expect more out of family life and we want to look good and have fun while we are doing it.

Unfortunately, the marketing world has yet to catch up with the reality of modern parenting. In advertising, dad is still the hapless sap who simply can’t get anything right. He burns any foodstuff that dares venture close to the oven, stares blankly at the mere mention of putting the washing on as if he had never visited his own utility room and returns from the supermarket with 15 pomegranates and a party pack of Twiglets when he was supposed to have hunter-gathered the Christmas dinner. That is, of course, when he is not encamped on his sofa, lounging in a cloud of his flatulence and barking orders at his put-upon spouse.

It reads as a wake up call to brands to engage better with Dads. Read the rest of it over at The Huffington Post.

Dad. The Hero!

We’ve had a close call before involving The Little One, and a small gap which featured her head. Thankfully the gap featured two movable worktops, and we managed to get her out of there. This little guy looks proper stuck until his hero dad comes along.

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Have you ever had to save a trapped small one?

10 Reasons Why You Don’t Want Another Kid (or at least not yet)

It seems that if you’re together with someone for more then two seconds then particular people start asking about when to expect wedding bells and / or the sound of tiny feet? Then you have a kid…. and they then ask when you’re having another one.

Its almost as if people are telling you to hurry up and populate the earth*.

If you’re being asked when you are having another kid, please feel free to use one of the following reasons why you dont want another kid (or at least not yet).

  1. If we have another… That means more child care is needed when we’re at work. Are YOU offering???
  2. Sleep?
  3. My house insurance won’t cover the increased chance of possible damage.
  4. My counsellor suggests I should keep the baby making thing as slow as possible.
  5. I’ve not yet learnt how to entertain the kid / kids I have in Church.
  6. I can’t run the risk of having more children then I do hands.
  7. I’ll need to find more time to spend with them!
  8. I struggle to avoid being out-smarted by one of them. Any more I worry they may gang together and rule the world.
  9. I might have TWINS!!
  10. My peace keeper negotiation skills are not yet at a place to deal with my current child allowance. I’m sure I’ll need to be ok negotiating with terrorists / organ players / Torys, before I’m comfortable negotiating with my current kids, AND future ones!

Any other things to say that you can think of?

*There were less polite ways of writing that sentence

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How to get a potty seat off a childs head

Every now and then, someone comes across the Dads Sofa after doing a search for “how to get a potty seat off a childs head”. Whilst that search takes you to this tale of a toddler wearing a potty seat – it may not be the most article to read during a time of crises.

In an attempt to be useful here are a few ideas of how to get a potty seat off a childs head:

  1. Washing up liquid
  2. Runny toffee.
  3. Wine.
  4. Blow Torch. – Maybe don’t drink the wine before using the blowtorch…
  5. Hammer (Because a hammer can solve lots of problems)
  6. A towel. (According to Douglas Adams you shouldn’t leave home without your towel)
  7. A saw. – But try to be accurate when using it.
  8. Time machine.  (Watch out for the butterfly effect)
  9. Blaming your other half / sibling / tortured child.
  10. Prayer. Because lets face it, you have a potty seat stuck on your toddlers head. The toddler is probably shouting, you’re stressed, no one is doing the right thing right now… you kinda need a miracle to avoid sending your kid to preschool with an additional item around their neck.

Hope these ideas help you get that potty seat off your little ones head!

Any ideas you want to share?

10 Reasons Why Dads Matter.

Dear Dads.

Ever felt that all the attention is on the mum? You know, she has the mum groups, the various classes, the extra time to actually understand the kid, and you have… work.

Well Babycentre have come up with 10 reasons why you also matter:

1. Who else, other than mum, will tuck her into bed at night, teach her how to ride a bike, fund her first holiday with friends and buy her first pint?

2. He’s got your genes. You are a part of his history, who he is, how he looks, right down to those big ears and awkward gait.

3. You matter to your partner, too. When you get stuck in from the start, breastfeeding is more successful and she is less likely to suffer from postnatal depression.

4. You’ll raise brainy kids. Children with involved fathers have better social skills when they reach nursery and do better in examinations at 16.

5. Being a good dad keeps your child sane. Father-child closeness is a crucial predictor of long-term mental health.

6. Successful professional women tend to have at least one thing in common: fathers who respect and encourage them.

7. Do well as a father and, when your child’s time comes, she’ll be a better mum.

8. You’ll keep him out of prison. Good fathering means your son is less likely to have a criminal record.

9. She’ll be happier later. Father involvement at age seven is correlated with your daughter’s contentment with love at 33.

10. Do you want your child to have higher self-esteem, be friendly and trust others? Your influence makes a difference.