I try not to simply share just loads and loads of video clips… but Bon Jovi. I never realised that the Bon Jovi song “I Got the Girl” is about his daughter.
According to The Huffington Post:
The rock star, who is currently on his band’s This House Is Not For Sale tour, performed in Las Vegas on Feb. 25. His setlist for the tour includes “I Got the Girl,” a song he wrote years ago for his daughter Stephanie Bongiovi, who is now 23. Bon Jovi sings about his “5-year-old princess” during one of the verses, which made the performance the perfect occasion for Stephanie to join her dad on stage to dance.
The performance was captured on youtube here.
Juggling a busy home, a full-time job and a handful of kids is no easy task. It’s no wonder that most parents wave goodbye to their personal space and alone time without trying to salvage even an evening a week for a movie or little shoot-em-up action on the Xbox. It’s true that it’s hard to make time, but it isn’t impossible! Many people feel guilty if they head out for an evening with friends or a little solo, kid-free time, but stress laden, overworked parenting has proven to have negative effects on children! What does this mean? Well, it’s time to give yourself a time out for once. Here’s how to make it happen.
You and your partner don’t need to do everything in the house. Get the family involved and teach the youngsters to do their part, too. This will free up a lot of extra time each week. Even children as young as 4 can be taught to pick up their room, put dirty clothes in the right place and feed the pets. Older children can be easily introduced to the wide spectrum of household duties we all know and loathe. Put a SchoolSitckers chart on the fridge with each person’s prescribed chores (including your own!), and set a reward for tasks done in timely fashion.
We have pizza every week, but I never realised how much time it could save until I started deciding which night it would be in advance. When you know there’s going to a night when you don’t have to cook or clean, it gives you the chance to organise your schedule around the kids’ and pencil in a little free time or a sofa session with your partner. And it doesn’t have to be pizza. Nowadays you can get Chinese, Thai, sandwiches and even sushi delivered right to your door.
Working right in with planning a pizza night, why not plan the rest of your week as well? This is a great practice for time management, and children react very well to routine, too. The first time I penned out my daily routine, I was shocked at how much free time I should have. I realised that I hadn’t been aware of what was best to do at what time, and that translated into a lot of wasted hours.
Gone are the days of going to the supermarket and standing there slack-jawed thinking, “Why did I come here again?” and then not remembering until I walked through my own front door. Making lists helps you hone in on what’s important and what isn’t, and also keeps you on your feet and on track. Make lists for shopping, to-do daily activities and even weekly, monthly and long-term goals.
When you put everything you need to do on your lists and in your routine, don’t forget that the blank spaces that remain don’t have to be filled in. Consider those your sacred spaces (or sofa spaces, in my case), and keep a couple of them for you. Even if some chores don’t get done, it’s not the end of the world. Respect your sacred spaces and they will reward you with peace and harmony.
Don’t underestimate your alone time! Remember that parents, employees and all human beings work best with batteries fully charged and that your sofa is a docking station with unlimited power.
Post inspired by Shine Media.
When you leave the house. the difference between having kids and not having kids… or kid…
The above is a simplified version of what really happens.
Not seen the new Star Wars movie yet? It may be best to not read the following look, at the place of Dads in the Star Wars Universe – as it very much includes The Force Awakens.
No seriously, don’t read this if you haven’t seen it. If you still want to read this, please scroll past Darth…
Still here? Ok…
I came across this little article earlier “Patriarchy and Star Wars: The Mother Strikes Back” where its argued that Mothers don’t seem to be liked much in the Star Wars universe. The thing is, Padme dies in childbirth, Shmi doesn’t die well, and yes it is suggested that Leia sent her son away… but let’s see if Dads do well in Star Wars, by looking at the main male characters and how well they do at the father / child relationship thing.
While not a dad as such to Anakin Skywalker, it could be argued that the guy was a father figure in some ways (particularly after Qui-Gon Jinns death). Obi Wan seemed to only really listen to Anakin once he rebelled. In punishment for Anakin’s rebellion, it can be argued that Obi Wan slashed the guy with a light saber and left him to burn in lava. That’s not nice parenting.
Whilst growing up as a slave, Anakin didn’t seem to have a dad on the scene, until one day this cool guy that could do mind tricks turned up, telling him that he could be free and train as Jedi as long as he left his mother behind. Anakin chose to hang out with this guy who could potentially had been the dad that he’d never had. This “dad” died an hours movie time later.
The replacement father figure seemed a lot younger, didn’t seem to listen to Anakin much, seemed keen to keep Anakin from seeing his mother, and anyone else who he may have an emotional attachment with. This forced Anakin to see his Mum in secret (in time for her to die – and not die well), and for him to have a secret relationship with Padme. Due to not being able to discuss his fears about Padme dying in childbirth, with his father (Obi Wan), Anakin found another person to confide in.
This led to a chain of events that led to Anakin being left burning by his father figure, just to be saved by another one. This new father figure picked him, dusted him down, and gave him a new life.
When Darth Vader realised that his son survived child birth, he went across the galaxy to track him down, and offer him a chance to work with him. Sadly Luke went grumpy teenager, screamed No at him, and jumped down into Cloud City. (Yes Darth cut off his hand, but this was a result of the love shown to him by Obi Wan Kenobi)
After being shown this love, Luke went to see Darth Vader – who in turn took him to see the only family Darth Vader had on the Death Star. This set up a chain of events that led to Luke killing his Dad. Whilst his friends blew up Darths place of work, AGAIN.
Spent his teenage life living with his aunt and uncle who told him that his father Anakin / Darth had died, and felt trapped within his life as a farm boy. Possibly as a result of this sheltered upbringing he didn’t react well to the happy news that his father was alive, snogged his sister, and killed his own father, before setting his father’s dead body on fire.
Since then, it’s possibly the case that he has abandoned his family and went into hiding after a work project had gone wrong.
Let’s ask how the relationship with his son is? No wait…
I think it’s fair to say that families in general don’t do well in Star Wars.
Is there anything I’ve missed from the above list?