(This is an updated version of a blog post from an old blog.)
There seems to be a question that every parent to be hsa to face at one point…
Should we use a Dummy?
In the words of the Good Lady Wife on Facebook:
It’s amazing how great plans for parenthood can go out of the window once you are a parent! I always said I’d avoid using a dummy, but at this moment in time I am so glad that I have one. Kate hasn’t had a solid chunk of sleep this afternoon, so she’s tired, and I’m tired & have backache from constantly carrying her around/holding her. She’s been changed LOTS, isn’t hungry but does keep yawning & dozing off for a few mins. A dummy in and she’s fallen asleep to the extent that she didn’t wake when I put her in the Moses basket! Silence is golden!
Heres the thing.
I’m not sure exactly when we made up our minds on this, it could have been just over the last few months, it might have even been way before the Good Lady Wife was even pregnant. But either way, at some point we had the chat. You know, the “chat” when you and your wife / girlfriend / boyfriend / husband / pet dog / parenting partner / whatever, sit down and talk “dummies”. Specifically, are you, or are you not going to have a dummy pushed into the face of your baby?
I’ll be blunt.
This isn’t something we researched, it was a quick conversation, and it was based on the image of toddlers having dummies pushed into their mouths whenever they tried to talk.
So. We said no. Not going to use a dummy.
If our child has something to scream about, we need to work out what it is, and there was also some comment about teeth growth as well…
So no. No dummies.
Then one morning…
The first morning of our child’s life. At about 3 ish. There I am. Tired and putting one foot in font of the other. Walking away from my wife who’s just emerged from an operation, down the labor ward corridor to find my daughter in the Intensive Care section of Neonatal. My head is all over the place. In the last few hours I had said goodbye to my wife as staff got her ready for an operation, and I had seen an oxygen mask over my daughters face as she was rushed to Intensive Care.
While I was walking along, lost in my world of worry, I looked up and saw one of wonderful neonatal nurses who was looking after my daughter come the other way to find me.
She was smiling.
She explained to me that Kate was struggling to settle, and the she was coming up to ask if we minded them trying a dummy.
Having the two most important people in your life looked after by the beautiful staff of the NHS puts things into perspective.
For a moment I laughed, then I simply said: “yeah”.
It’s amazing how quickly a mind can change at 3 am.
My personal take on the whole discussion about if you should use a dummy or not; consider it as a tool in your parenting box of tricks.
If you’re after a serious list of facts about the use of dummies, I’d suggest checking out babycentre.co.uk