Who deleted me, and why do I want to know?

There’s this app, designed to work with the worlds most popular social network, to take your curiosity and uses it to tease your self esteem. It’s called “Who Deleted Me?”.

Once you’ve installed it, Who Deleted Me takes a copy of your friend list, and uses this copy to tell you if any one “disappears” from it. It apparently also lets you see the last time your friends logged into Facebook, as well as keeping note of the people you’ve deemed not good enough for your friend list.

My question about it, is quite simply, Why?

Why would you want to know all this? Does this show us something about the importance that we put on a connection within a social network, when we now have easy ways of finding out who broke that connection? If being friends on Facebook is the new way of certifying a friendship, is being unfriended on Facebook the new personal insult?

Besides, what would you do with this information anyway? Is there a positive outcome to knowing that someone has served you with the ultimate in personal insults deleted you from their Facebook friend list?

Does watching who logged into Facebook and when they last logged seem creepy to anyone else? I can imagine (hopefully only) situations in schools, where people have logged in, and not liked the photo belonging to the ‘popular kid’. That ‘popular kid’ now has a tool to act as Big Brother online.

All credit to the guy that wrote Who Deleted Me. This is an app that plays into our curiosity, and seems to have become popular as a result. I wonder what impact this, and apps like this could have on online behavior?

With all the above said, I’m still curious to try it out. You can download it from here, but the website does seem to be struggling at the moment.

Can anyone who is friends with me on Facebook, please let me know if they install this… just so I know who to look out for…

What do you think of Who Deleted Me?
Are you going to be trying it out?



The Dad Network

How to get a potty seat off a childs head

Every now and then, someone comes across the Dads Sofa after doing a search for “how to get a potty seat off a childs head”. Whilst that search takes you to this tale of a toddler wearing a potty seat – it may not be the most article to read during a time of crises.

In an attempt to be useful here are a few ideas of how to get a potty seat off a childs head:

  1. Washing up liquid
  2. Runny toffee.
  3. Wine.
  4. Blow Torch. – Maybe don’t drink the wine before using the blowtorch…
  5. Hammer (Because a hammer can solve lots of problems)
  6. A towel. (According to Douglas Adams you shouldn’t leave home without your towel)
  7. A saw. – But try to be accurate when using it.
  8. Time machine.  (Watch out for the butterfly effect)
  9. Blaming your other half / sibling / tortured child.
  10. Prayer. Because lets face it, you have a potty seat stuck on your toddlers head. The toddler is probably shouting, you’re stressed, no one is doing the right thing right now… you kinda need a miracle to avoid sending your kid to preschool with an additional item around their neck.

Hope these ideas help you get that potty seat off your little ones head!

Any ideas you want to share?

Free (ish) Amazon Voucher?

I dont ever share deals or anything here, maybe its something I should do more often? But anyway, here’s one I wanted to share with you, mostly because if you sign up to it, its good for both us.

Top Cashback is a website that lets you get cashback on any online shopping you do. The amount of money you get does vary, but at the end of the day, some money back is better then no money back – right?

The reason why I’m mentioning this?

You sign up to Top Cashback, and start getting money back into your account, when you get £10 cash back, you will also get a free £5 Amazon voucher. (And I’ll get some money chucked my way as well)

Whats the worst that could happen?

Sign up to Top Cashback here.


So I had some help with writing Fathers Day Cards…

For those paying attention, it’s probably not a surprise if I say that things have been a bit busy over the last week and a bit. After all, the Saturday before last featured a CBT, there has been general work stuff, the “Mums The Word” event in Exeter, the youth work summit in Kent, and then… There was Father’s Day.

By the time it got to Fathers Day, I kinda tired. It was also my mums birthday… Just to keep things busy, and as the Good Lady Wife needed to work, I was left to find some words to go in their cards…

Thankfully I had a little minion to help me.


The Dads Sofa List of #topTVdads. (@CurrysPCWorld)

To celebrate the upcoming Fathers Day, Currys have asked bloggers to list their top TV Dads.

As this is also part of a competition to win a very sweet TV, I figured I would join in. I would admit, it wasn’t easy – Dads aren’t shown in the greatest of light in the media, but hopefully you enjoy my list of Dads I settled on…

Jack Geller

Yes. The Dad from Friends. In a TV Show that many people growing up in the 90s / 2000s grew up with, Jack Geller was one character that some how managed to be simultaneously clueless, yet totally on the ball. A man without a clue, yet he actually knew all that was happening. A man of few words… and the words he said often were not great.

There was one constant, even though he screwed up every now and then – he loved his kids.

Wilfred “Wilf” Mott

Doctor Who, a TV series that has been going for over 50 years featuring a character that is described in the show as “…like fire and ice and rage. He’s like the night and the storm in the heart of the sun… ancient and forever. He burns at the centre of time and can see the turn of the universe.” It’s no wonder that we never got to see a father figure in the Doctors life.

Then we met “Wilf”. The Grandpa of the Doctors companion, these two seemed to hit it off from the moment they first met, to having the ability to have this father / son style chat:

Darth Vader

Hear me out on this, but there is a point of view that Darth is a good father, that is trapped in an impossible situation. Empire Strikes Back is filled with evidence that shows this:

  1. He tests that being frozen in carbonite will not kill his son, by testing it on his daughters boy friend.
  2. Darth totally had Luke on the walk way (in the below clip), if he really wanted to kill he really could have done.
  3. (In the below clip) When Luke was hanging out on the edge, Darth was holding out his hand to help. Could we even argue that Luke was throwing a toddler-like strop by backing away from him?

There’s also that bit in “Return of The Jedi” where he kills his obviously well paying boss in order to help his son out.

Could Darth Vader in fact be the best TV Dad* ever?


*I’m arguing that Darth Vaders appearance in the TV special “Star Wars Holiday Special”, and upcoming Star Wars Rebels episodes, qualifies him as a “TV Dad”.

Homer Simpson

Homer Simpson. Man. Husband. Father. Legend.

Not a great cook.

Homer is there for those guys who are caught between just wanting a quiet life, and wanting to do the right thing for the people he loves. Whilst you wonder at times if he wanted a wife and kids, he’s still going to try and look after them. His relationship with Bart might be “interesting” at times, but when he upsets Lisa, he’ll do anything to make it right.

Its the episodes that focus on Maggie, that show us what Homer is really willing to do for his family. This is a guy that will stay in a job that he hates, in order to look after them. And its photos of Maggie that give him hope, that he’s doing the right thing.

I think, Maggie, who never talks in the series… kinda knows:


Brian Williams

The seventh series of Doctor Who included the storyline of the Doctors companions trying to juggle a normal life while travelling with the Doctor. While the Doctor symbolised their life amongst the stars, we met the guy that symbolised their life at home.

Brian Williams, a normal bloke. Helpful. Practical. Trustworthy. Useful around the house, and a waterer of plants. A guy that loved his son and daughter in law. In the short time we knew him, the Dad of Rory Williams showed himself to be a bit of a legend.

Because he felt it was best for them, he convinced Amy and Rory to keep travelling with the Doctor.

He never saw them again. Amy and Rory became stuck in New Yorks past, and died there.

Brian Williams, only found out about the death of his son (and the existence of a Grandson) in this unfilmed scene.

The immediate acceptance of the new family member, shows what being a dad is all about. (Yes… I may welling up with big manly tears at the above)

Who would you have included in your list of top TV Dads?

Please see the currys website for further details on the competition.

Free and Cheap Things To Do With Kids This Summer Around Exeter, Devon

With Summer about to hit, its good to get the kids out and about. If for no other reason – they seem to have so much energy that they need to burn. As we were wondering around Exeter the other day, we decided to come up with our mini list of things to do with kids around Exeter this Summer.

Orange Elephant

Orange Elephant is one of those hidden gems, that is easy to talk about, but needs a certain amount of want to actually get there.

Its worth the trip for the ice cream, play equipment, the butchers, farm animals, and ice cream. Found within the Haldon Valley, this all looks beautiful on a nice day. You need to be a member to access some of this, but that only costs a family £10 for the season. Oh and yes, the ice cream is good enough to mention twice.

(The Maize Maze is also worth getting lost in, if you’re there at the right time of year)

The Orange Elephant Website.


Exeter’s, Royal Albert Memorial Museum is found in the town centre, minutes away from the High Street. There are many things to do, walk through / around, eat, and look at.

Its not open on Mondays or Banks Holidays, but feels like its open the rest of the time. Its free entry, and a great rainy day activity.

Exeter Cathedral.

 Or more accurately, the Cathedral Green. The Green around Exeter Cathedral is large enough that you can just let a toddler run, while you work on luring your toddler back with ice cream from one of the near by shops. The Cathedral Green is a hub of all that is a good about the south west. Want to let your kid run? Do it. Fancy a Pasty for lunch, there’s a few places nearby that sell them – and cakes for dessert. Fancy good food? Well you have Michael Caines @adobe. Thirsty? Well check out the Well House…

Whilst its not particularly cheap, if you can find the money for the entrance fee, try and have a nose around Exeter Cathedral.

If you live within EX1 – 4 areas of Exeter / Devon, ask about their Resident Cards for free access. (Just remember to donate!) Theres also loads of events on over the summer months, check out their website for more information.

The Quay / The Canal

 Do you like walks along a lovely river, leading in to a canal? Do you like pubs that come with a great taste of Devon? Do you like food? Like History? Like cycling? Kayaking? Are you a fan of cream teas?

If yes to any of the above, then take a wonder around the Quay.

Saddles and Paddles – Bike / Kayak Hire.


If The Quay feels a little far, try taking a wonder around one of the many parks dotted around Exeter. Or (if you can get there), Haldon Forest is great for a wonder around. (Or any of the other random activities they have).


The Twisted Oak

We went to The Twisted Oak back when it opened, and we kinda liked it. Here’s our thoughts at the time.

I can imagine a trip there being as pricey or as cheap as you want it to be.

Exeter Central Library.

A great place to hide during one of those wetter days. The Central library in Exeter has a Childrens section with loads of books, blocks, and a great big rocking horse to climb on. Theres a nice size cafe, with entrance to the gardens behind. The thing to look out for is that to get to the childrens section, you have to walk through the main library, and as its not contained, wondering toddlers are possible!

Oh and no, you dont have loads of people saying “Shhhh”

King George V Playing Fields

Quite simply this is a massive set of playing fields in the Countess Wear area, near the Swing Bridge over the River Exe. These playing fields maybe of note, if you have kids that would appreciate the “accessible and inclusive playground” that they have. See theplaypark.co.uk for more details.

The Blue Ball.

The Blue Ball, near the M5 motorway/Sandy gate. It’s got a climbing frame in the beer garden & lots of grass to run around on/kick a ball. Decent beer (Its part of the St Austells chain of pubs), a good looking menu, and possibly within walking distance from the Newcourt area of Exeter. 

Go Further Afield

One of the nice things about Exeter, is how it acts as a base to visit other areas of the South West.

Fancy a trip to the beach? Exmouth is only a 30 minute drive, or a cheap train ride away (Even cheaper with a Devon and Cornwall Railcard). Not a fan of the beach? It worth the trip to hunt down the battered chips. Like moorland? You have Dartmoor to your west. Fancy a trip to Cornwall? Thats only a 60 minute drive away.

Well thats my list.

For those who live in or know Exeter, are there any ideas I’ve left out that should be included? Please mention it in the comments below.

(I might leave the top list of Pubs for another day)